Traits of Success. Part 2: Quit Serving Your Ego

Get over being right- Maybe another way of saying this is 'Quit serving your ego and train your ego to serve you.' Who is the boss here, after all?
This one is fundamentally important, because mastering this concept is key to personal freedom, happiness, and being an effective person.

If it's your mission in life to validate all of your current beliefs, to prove yourself right at all costs, you are truly the servant of your own ego and you'll resist changing your mind, your beliefs, your opinions, yourself, even in light of compelling new information. If you're unwilling to change your mind, you're unwilling to learn, grow, evolve, or adapt to your world, and this can become punishing, because your ego is a demanding thing- it needs a little stroking, and it'll take what it can get- even if it means putting the blinders further on and settling for feeling good about being 'right' when you don't get your way.

...but what is 'right', anyway? Being 'right', correct, proper, etc. is a subjective judgment you make when you process your observations of the world through the filter of your beliefs, habits, and values... but it is not an absolute, it's just what works for you.

There are no facts, only interpretations. -Friedrich Nietzsche

...so if being 'right' is subjective, what's the big deal? ...the big deal is that your pride is involved, because you've identified personally with an external thing- in other words, you've made it about you personally when it's not about you. It gets in your way, makes it difficult to listen to what other people have to say, makes it difficult for you to surrender to truth as it comes to you, makes it impossible for you to mutate at will.

Your pride and your ego are very good things, but they're only good insofar as they serve you- not the other way around- and one of the easiest ways to avoid serving them is to get over your desire to be 'right' about everything, so you can get to work on solving the real problems you'll face in your life, and become your future self with grace and elegance.

Ways to know you're getting over your desire to be right:

You argue less
You go weeks without complaining or blaming
Your happiness lasts longer and is fuller
You feel capable of being happy effortlessly

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