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vuvisto: Dont' Escape Criticism, Externalize It.: "“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them be..."

Dont' Escape Criticism, Externalize It.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt

“Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary.
It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body.
It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”
~ Winston Churchill

Criticism is crucial for personal improvement. It’s the most direct way to find out what you should improve on. However, accepting criticism can be emotionally challenging. Afterall, we’re only human, who wants to hear bad stuff about ourselves?

It’s hard to not take it personally. Our instinctive reaction is to become defensive and we shut out potentially helpful and life-enhancing tips. By doing this, we miss out on what could supercharge our improvement.

So how can you take criticism without getting self-conscious and defensive?

Answer: An effective way to accept criticism is to externalize it.

When you externalize criticism, you escape the defensiveness trap. You stop being self-conscious and take criticism objectively, which lets you reap the benefits of the helpful tips that the criticism contains.

The criticism isn’t directed at you personally, but at a writer, artist, worker, developer (or whatever else you’re getting feedback for) that just happens to have the same name as you. When you take criticism objectively, your initial defensiveness fades away, simply because you’re not taking it personally anymore.

Externalizing criticism lets you extract helpful tips from even the most critical feedback. You take the bits that make sense to you and discard the rest. You don’t risk getting defensive or even feeling bad or self-conscious.

Externalizing criticism is also a shield from bad and unhelpful criticism. It doesn’t matter how much or what kind of comments and criticism you get: you look at it all objectively. You can take what makes sense to you and discard the rest.

When you externalize criticism, you can easily take and use it to supercharge your personal improvement.

5 Steps to Effectively Taking Criticism

Ready to improve your taking of criticism? Good.

Next time you ask for feedback, follow these 5 steps to externalize criticism:

1. Wait for your gut reaction to pass before doing anything – let your emotions disappear, so you don’t take the criticism personally and become defensive
2. Imagine the criticism is directed at someone else – some person who happens to have your name and does exactly what you do
3. Keep your mouth shut – listen, don’t defend
4. Discuss the person’s points – asking questions will a) help you to get even more useful tips from them, and b) externalize the criticism more (you’re seeing it even more objectively this way)

Rinse and repeat every time you get feedback until externalizing criticism becomes a habit.

(Bonus) How to even more effectively take criticism:

1. Be confident – believe in what you do, so that even the most critical comments don’t sway your direction
2. Have a clear goal in what you’re doing – so when you ask for feedback on it, you can take criticism to improve the key areas rather than let others dictate the direction and get lost

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Be a Money Magnet: Here's the Key

A money magnet is someone who uses attraction and the power of visualization to attract wealth and abundance into their life. It sounds like a crazy concept to the uninitiated, but once you begin studying the law of attraction, you'll find that becoming a money magnet is easier than most people think.

The problem is that most of us are conditioned to think that money is difficult to come by -- that it is a scarce commodity, and we are lucky just to get enough of it to scrape by. Actually, nothing could be further from the truth. Understanding the law of attraction helps us to see it there is never a lack or limitation of anything in the universe. All things flow with abundance, including money.

Once we began to get into the mindset of attraction, becoming a money magnet is second nature. You will find that money simply begins to appear as if ordered, right on cue. And one very effective way to start this flow of attraction and wealth into your life is to use the power of visualization.

Try this simple but effective exercise to attract money into your life:

Twice a day, morning and night, go into a quiet room and relax quietly in a comfortable chair or lying down. Then simply close your eyes and begin to visualize yourself having great wealth. It is important to understand that you should never visualize wanting money, but instead, see yourself ALREADY HAVING lots of money.

Once you begin seeing yourself as already being a money magnet, the real power of attraction springs into action on your behalf, producing wealth in your life. In fact, the most important point about attracting money into your life is this: you cannot "need" it. Instead, you must already be convinced that you have plenty of money.


You see, despite what some ill-informed "gurus" would have you believe, the universe does not give us everything that we "want." The universe gives us more of what we already "have." This means that in order to attract something (like money) into your life, you need to already "have" money.

This may sound like a catch 22, but actually it's not. By using the power of visualization, you can begin to see yourself as having an abundance of all things -- including money. It is this inner "seeing" that brings about the power of attraction and will make you a magnet for money (or anything else you desire).

In my coaching practice or consulting, I sometimes see clients who have a hard time with this concept of "having" versus "wanting." But with time and study, it becomes much easier to understand and to put the power of your creative imagination to work on your behalf to create wealth.

In my experience, the two most important points in becoming a money magnet through the law of attraction are as follows:

1. Use the power of visualization every single day. "See" yourself already having the things that you want, and the money that you desire. Remember, it's not enough to simply "want" something. In your mind, you must already "have" it.

2. Practice gratitude. By being grateful that you already have something, you are sending a very powerful signal out into the universe. The law of attraction assures us that whatever you put out into the world will come back to you. In other words, if you put out a strong vibration that you are a money magnet, attraction will make sure that your affirmation takes physical form and becomes a reality in your life.

There are no exceptions to these rules, just as there is no exception to the law of attraction. It is always working, at all times, for everyone. If what you desire is great riches, began "seeing" yourself as already being a money magnet; attraction will manifest your inner "seeing" into a reality in your life-- every single time.

That's it for now.

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Anyway - Mother Theresa

“People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
… Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
… Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
… Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
… Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
… Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
… Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
… Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
… Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.”
——— Mother Theresa.

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Stop being realistic

What’s the good word my good people!

Today i dedicated to being realistic!

Being realistic is the worst thing that you can ever do while striving for dreams and aspirations! Reality as you know it, is based only on your experience and of those around you!

Reality as you know it, is extremely limited! STOP being realistic!!

Everything you want is yours if you can imagine yourself having it!! Reality tells you that things are impossible!! Reality tells you that things are difficult! Reality tells you that there is a certain way to obtain success!! Dare to do the impossible! Have faith in yourself and in your abilities!! Absolutely nothing can stop your determined soul!! Your path to success is YOU!! Take time to develop your craft and throw reality out the window!! Who cares about conventional wisdom!! Do it now! Do it your way! And make your dream happen!!

Make your Haters your Motivators

Diversity is important in all areas of life. A great financial portfolio has a diverse set of assets so it can profit in any financial environments. A great carpenter carries a diverse set of tools so every construction need can be met. A great business employs a diverse group of people who can understand, no – feel, the diverse needs of every corner of its customer base. Similarly, people who have great success require a diverse set of skills. The greatest among us live on a mission, committed to getting better every day despite or, better yet, because of all the challenges they will face. Sure, we would all rather play all of our games “at home” on a familiar field surrounded by stands packed the fans that show us the most love. However, we often must play the game of life before hostile crowds. Just like the carpenter needs the screwdriver and the hammer equally, your success plan needs to thrive equally on love and hate. You need to be able to make your haters your motivators.

A hater is someone who gets joy from witnessing your failure. Said differently, a hater does not enjoy seeing you have success. Because haters get their joy from seeing you fail, playing on their terms is a no-win situation for you. Your haters will only be happy if you are failing, pleasing them is obviously self-destructive. This is not nearly as self-destructive, however, as keeping haters on your “home team” and succeeding despite them. In this case, your haters will be forced to step up their hate game until they end your season for good. A hater is a threat to any and every positive move you make toward success because your success threatens his or her joy.

Further, it is not always easy to spot “hater-ation,” as Mary J. Blige would say, because sometimes it comes at you by surprise. Hate sometimes appears in your life as a monkey wrench in your engine thrown by “friends” and even family members. Naively, many people feel that they can simply avoid or ignore those who mean them harm. In their time of indecision, these people find their plan for haters is no plan at all, which often leaves them wide open to their haters’ attacks. Haters, if you let them, will make themselves at home in your mind, keeping you stuck in self-doubt and far from success. And yet, you must make your haters a part of your success plan. What? A carpenter would not go to the job without a hammer because their may be nails there that need pounding. In the same fashion, given that haters are an inevitable part of life, you may need to lay the hammer yourself, making your haters a part of your success rather than your demise.

In order to reach your highest potential, you have to get and stay motivated every day. Some days, the work of greatness will come easily to you. You will be so enamored with the worth of your mission that you will be able to push forward with ease. Some days, however, your motivation will wane, your step will drag, and your courage will weaken. These are the days in which you may need to use every trick in your book to stay motivated. These are the days in which haters are the most useful to you. Your haters are waiting for you to quit, waiting for you to admit that they were right all along about you. Will you let them have the satisfaction? Your haters are on standby waiting to stand over you after you’ve fallen from the mountain up which they were too frightened or too lazy to climb. Will you sit still for the diss? Your haters are trying to take food off your table and give you a backhanded slap on the way out. Will you stand for it?

On the days when the thought of your righteous mission is not enough to amp you up, think about your haters. They’re not right about you! They have no business standing over you dissing your game! And if they try to take what yours, you’ll take it back, ‘cause it’s like that! Use your haters to get back on your game. Steal your haters’ joy by staying on a winning path.

No one wants to think about haters. We would all rather ignore them and go about our business. However, if you love your greatness, you will make sure that nothing ever stands in your path. Don’t get caught being the carpenter without a hammer in his box. Though you should never, ever have haters as a playbook-carrying member of your squad, but be sure to use them to keep your mind right for success. Put all that hate to good use!

By Brian McClellan

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Traits of Success. Part 4. Do Nothing "Because you Should"

Do Nothing "Because you Should"-

The word 'should' confers a duality- it distinguishes what you want to do from what you think is the right thing to do- meaning that if you govern yourself with 'shoulds', what you're creating is a conflict within yourself. Instead of simply wanting to do the right thing (the elegant path), when you govern yourself with 'shoulds' you create and empower a separate part of you to tell you that you shouldn't do what you want- and this part of you operates by making you feel guilty and miserable.

The word 'should' is the weapon of your negative ego- that's the part of you whose job it is to belittle and control you... when the purpose of your life is to grow, be happy and free, and to express your higher purpose in life. We empower our negative ego in order to balance out our 'positive' one's faults- for example, if your ego gets a lot of validation out of spending lots of money on status symbols, the negative ego's job would be to make you feel guilty over spending more than you can afford.

The entire reason for empowering our 'negative ego' is because we resist changing the positive one- but this is a path of self-conflict and wasted energy. Instead of creating a separate entity to fight us and make us feel dumb and guilty, we can simply become the person who wants to (rather than 'thinks they should') do what is best for themselves.

The key here is in allowing reality, rather than your ego, to guide the way you adapt to your world. Mutate at will. This has nothing to do with principles- by all means, be true to your values- but don't mistake your values for your concept of 'self'- as soon as you do that, your ego is engaged and you're on the hook. For example, in this case (where you're driven to keep up with the joneses by your concept of self) it's really tempting to believe that without being ahead of the joneses, you would cease to be you- but that's just not true.

Ways to know you're getting good at this:

You procrastinate less
You seldom, if ever, let yourself down
The amount of drama in your life is vastly reduced
You never wrestle with your conscience

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Traits of Success. Part 3: Don't fear failure

In order to succeed, first you have to try. If your fear of failure is greater than your desire to succeed, odds are good that you won't try, and therefore cannot succeed.

Fear is an illusion we create in order to avoid pain, and at it's root is generally a morbid fantasy that if we don't avoid (whatever it is we're afraid of) that we'll end up experiencing pain of some sort, abandonment, or death. Of course, if we follow out the chain of logic that connects the two, we'll discover that it's a little ridiculous. What's the worst that could realistically happen, and how much of it is in your head?

Again, this becomes an exercise in spotting how much your ego rules you. The idea here is to become the person whose ego serves them- because your ego is an incredibly powerful and amazing part of you- but it can be a cruel master if you choose to serve it.

How to know you're not afraid to fail:

You accomplish more
You don't notice that you're trying more things
Your world becomes much larger and richer
Nothing is a big deal

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Traits of Success. Part 3: Tolerate nothing

Tolerate nothing- If you mean to harm yourself, so they say, it makes no sense to torture yourself with small annoyances- go big go home. ...and if you don't mean to harm yourself, why are you putting up with all the torture? Of course, we don't mean 'be intolerant' in the sense of the term that would have you closed-minded or unwilling to accept new or differing ideas or perspectives- that would be an obstacle to your ability to grow and evolve. Instead, the imperative 'tolerate nothing' is a call to root out your cynicism about all the little things in life that aren't perfect, and to help you get clear that you can have it all.

At the same time, the call to 'tolerate nothing' does not suggest that the problems you face are bad or wrong- they are simply what is so for you- and rather than viewing them in the context of right or wrong, it's much more constructive to view them in the context of choice.

Many of us tolerate the small things that plague us in our daily lives because we're simply unconscious to the fact that we have choice around them- that is, we're honestly convinced that 'this is just how life is'. Often what's underneath this is the fear that if we deal with this one, the next one could be bigger and scarier. In truth, the size of the 'problem' that stops you is precisely the size of YOU- or, said another way, the size of the problem that stops you is how big you declare yourself to be relative to it. In life, there will always be problems. It is part of the human condition to be confronted by challenge, to identify personally with adversity and in a sense, to be defined as a being by the scope of the challenges we take on.

Another important idea is that we're here to learn and grow as we become our future selves- and solving problems is the way we learn from our world. What's more, it feels good to solve them. To be human is to have problems, and the question you want to ask yourself is this: are the problems you have right now worthy of you? Are they a fitting expenditure of your life?

Most people go through their lives trying to get rid of problems, or at best, trying to make their problems as small as possible. Effective people expand themselves by taking on problems that cause them to grow, develop, learn.

Ways to know you're getting good at tolerating nothing:

You solve problems before you worry about them
Problems become lighter, easier to deal with, and much more interesting.
Solving problems, even substantial ones, becomes no big deal

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Traits of Success. Part 2: Quit Serving Your Ego

Get over being right- Maybe another way of saying this is 'Quit serving your ego and train your ego to serve you.' Who is the boss here, after all?
This one is fundamentally important, because mastering this concept is key to personal freedom, happiness, and being an effective person.

If it's your mission in life to validate all of your current beliefs, to prove yourself right at all costs, you are truly the servant of your own ego and you'll resist changing your mind, your beliefs, your opinions, yourself, even in light of compelling new information. If you're unwilling to change your mind, you're unwilling to learn, grow, evolve, or adapt to your world, and this can become punishing, because your ego is a demanding thing- it needs a little stroking, and it'll take what it can get- even if it means putting the blinders further on and settling for feeling good about being 'right' when you don't get your way.

...but what is 'right', anyway? Being 'right', correct, proper, etc. is a subjective judgment you make when you process your observations of the world through the filter of your beliefs, habits, and values... but it is not an absolute, it's just what works for you.

There are no facts, only interpretations. -Friedrich Nietzsche

...so if being 'right' is subjective, what's the big deal? ...the big deal is that your pride is involved, because you've identified personally with an external thing- in other words, you've made it about you personally when it's not about you. It gets in your way, makes it difficult to listen to what other people have to say, makes it difficult for you to surrender to truth as it comes to you, makes it impossible for you to mutate at will.

Your pride and your ego are very good things, but they're only good insofar as they serve you- not the other way around- and one of the easiest ways to avoid serving them is to get over your desire to be 'right' about everything, so you can get to work on solving the real problems you'll face in your life, and become your future self with grace and elegance.

Ways to know you're getting over your desire to be right:

You argue less
You go weeks without complaining or blaming
Your happiness lasts longer and is fuller
You feel capable of being happy effortlessly

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Traits of Success. Part 1: Be Selfish and love it

Probably the first thing that comes to mind when you begin reading an article with this title would be 'spend less', 'save', 'invest', and the like. While these are good things to do, and arguably if you do these you'll amass some amount of money, the above activities are the results of habits, they're secondary to the sorts of basic things this article will discuss.

What this article will discuss are more properly the habits of effective people- people who are happy, dynamic, and good at what they do, whatever it is. These are all small, but profound things that come together to make the big things happen more quickly and with greater ease.

Stop Complaining- Complaining is not just annoying to other people, it is harmful to you. huh? Complaining is the strategy we use in order to get other people to solve our problems for us, and what's more, usually it's the strategy we use to make other people feel bad for us. What complaining does for us is to attract people who want to feel bad for you, repel people who won't tolerate that sort of behavior, locks you into a dependency paradigm, and it rewards you for giving up. If you complain effectively, people will come to you and give you attention- it worked when you were a baby, right?

The problem is that when complaint becomes a habit, when your first strategy in the face of adversity is to give up and complain in the hopes that other people will come to either solve your problem for you or console you, it means that your habit is to impose on anybody who will let you. Complainers like to describe people who aren't interested in being imposed upon as 'selfish' or 'insensitive', and often are the same people who equate selfishness with bad moral character- after all, if they can't manipulate these people by complaining, they must be bad, right?

When you complain, you rob yourself of initiative, you shut your imagination down, and you stop looking for solutions to your problem on your own. Instead of becoming larger than your problems, you become smaller, and in order not to feel miserable about it, you complain in order to get some self-validation. As soon as you bring self-validation into it, you get your ego involved, which only complicates things- at that point you have to choose between being right and being happy, and your ego is very motivated to be right. Instead of finding a way to overcome your problem, you'll settle for feeling righteous about how unfair your life is.

how to know you're getting good at not complaining-

You look for constructive things to do about a problem first
big problems start to look a lot smaller, or even un-noticable
drama? what drama? The interesting parts of your life are the positive things, rather than the negative ones.
You don't take adversity personally
People stop coming to you with their complaints, and start coming to you with good news instead.
Stop Worrying- Worry occurs in your imagination, not in reality. Worry is the process by which you torture yourself with past could've-beens and future what-ifs- both of which are, by virtue of their imaginary status, impossible to address in the present. They are separate from reality, and separate in time, from anything you can control- all you can control is yourself, in the present. If, with your present self, you choose to worry, all you accomplish is to take yourself out of reality for the duration of your trip.

If your worry is about something that may happen in the future, ask yourself two questions- 1) is there anything I can do about it now? If so, get to it, and 2) isn't this a problem I'll be able to deal with when it comes up?

If your worry is about something that could've happened in the past, ask yourself whether it's relevant in any way to the present or future, and how can you apply questions one and two above to it? ...at that point, you can drop the subject, resolved, until the next time you need to deal with whatever it was that bothered you enough to worry.

Worry is a function of fear, and fear is your subconscious's way of telling you that it is uncomfortable with something- and your subconscious will make you miserable until the problem goes away... but the problem is that worrying doesn't solve anything. The quickest way (indeed, the only way) to resolve something that bothers you is to act in the present, in reality, outside the context of your fear. Inside it's context... you could wrestle with it forever, and it will only make you unhappy and powerless.

"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." -Albert Einstein

Worry traps you in the context of your fear- in your imagination, out of reality, without a means of actually solving the problem that's got you all worked up. Worry is the stick your subconscious uses to jerk you around, to tell you there's something wrong- it is NOT THE SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEM.

I've been told earnestly by a friend that if he didn't worry about the future, the future would be a disaster. A friend of mine told him that worrying doesn't actually *do* anything- it just makes you unhappy now. Upset, he insisted that if he didn't worry, how could he know that he'd behave appropriately in the future? My friend suggested that the only time he'd be able to do anything about it would be when the future arrived... but that when it did arrive he might miss it because he'd still be worrying about an even more distant future instead of behaving well in the present. Sure enough, he got mad at my friend and didn't understand the lesson.

I walked away from that conversation with an interesting thought- I don't know that I'll behave appropriately in the future- that is the meaning of freedom. When the time comes, I'll probably do the right thing- out of choice, not because I've tortured or brainwashed myself into it.

How to recognize you're getting good at not worrying:

You solve problems as they come up
You procrastinate a lot less than you used to
You're happier and more free
Get over being selfish- It's a basic truth that you have needs, and a simple way of defining needs is 'what you require in order to fulfill your purpose'. If you're a carpenter, you need your tools or else you can't do carpentry, and it's impossible for you to do the good things you do that make life better for other people. You have many purposes, and therefore many needs- you are someone's child, someone's friend, someone's parent perhaps- all of these roles confer responsibilities upon you, and fulfilling these responsibilities is arguably part of your purpose in life. If you fail to get your own needs met, you cannot effectively serve those purposes. Getting your needs met is an absolutely moral endeavor, because it establishes your own ability to contribute to the lives of others.

Being selfish doesn't mean taking more than your share- that's what the complainers would have you think- they want you to feel bad about not meeting their needs before yours. Being selfish is not the opposite of being generous, it is the pre-requisite of being generous. What being selfish does is allow you to fulfill your potential- it allows you to discover, and to express the values that define your purpose in life. It allows you to filter out demands of you that are unreasonable, it allows you to attract positivity and position yourself in a way that everything you do makes you happy, including giving.

If you're positioned in your life to get happiness out of everything you do (I get a lot of satisfaction out of giving gifts, it makes me happy, it's a selfish act) then you become motivated to do more- and in doing more, more people benefit from you, it's as simple as that. At the same time, you free yourself to reap the benefits of everything you do- and you realize your ability to fulfill your purpose in life.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do[...] it's in everyone. As we let our own light shine we give others permission to do the same; as we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson

Your first responsibility, before all others, is to meet your own needs. Until then, you're not only cheating yourself, you're cheating everyone around you of the benefits that you could have offered to the world, had you realized your potential. If your needs are not met, you cannot be happy, free, ethical, moral... because these are the values that express who you are after they are met. If you don't have what you need in order to be you, you can't do that. For this reason, it is profoundly immoral to neglect your potential, just as it is to ask another to do so.

If you are unprepared to serve yourself, you cannot serve others. Make yourself happy, and you will attract people who are, or want to be, happy. Accept that you cannot make anyone else truly happy- only they can do that, by following the same selfishness principle. Create within yourself what you want to attract from without- it works in no other way, and it starts with being selfish.

How to know you're getting better at being selfish:

Your 'wants' are few.
Your friends are happier
You attract more people to you
More and more of what you do makes you happy

- To be Continued -
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Problem solving 101 : Going at it alone is no fun.

“A problem cannot be solved with the same consciousness that created it.”
– Albert Einstein

Most of the problems that we have today, we probably had — in a different degree last week, last year or five years ago. Einstein said it best: stop trying to figure out how to solve your own problems… it ain’t working!

Any successful person has a team of people around him or her: consultants, employees, coaches, friends, family, psychologists, doctors, lawyers, accountants, etc. It is a rarity to find a wildly successful (and generally happy) person alone. Any time that we find ourselves in a [small or large] heap of a mess: at work, at homes, with our friends… it is an opportunity to find a solution.

Finding a solution means we must be ready for a better experience. Then we have to become willing to ask for help. The ego will not want us to do that… but anyone with an unwavering commitment to success must be willing to admit when he or she is wrong and seek counsel from a third party who can provide feedback.

Today, if you are experiencing a situation that is beyond your mental comprehension… go out on a limb and pull someone on board to help you come up with a logical solution. You deserve peace of mind, success and happiness. Don’t settle for anything less than that. You will be in good company (Einstein, myself and lots of other really smart people).

So be glad to ask for help, going at it alone is no fun.
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Just for fun I recently asked my wife, “Now that the kids are in school, don’t you think it’s about time you went out and got yourself a job? I hate seeing you wallow in unemployment for so long.”
She smiled and said, “Wow. I have been unemployed a really long time. That’s weird… I like it!”

Neither of us have had jobs since the ’90s (my only job was in 1992), so we’ve been self-employed for quite a while. In our household it’s a running joke for one of us to say to the other, “Maybe you should get a job, derelict!”

It’s like the scene in The Three Stooges where Moe tells Curly to get a job, and Curly backs away, saying, “No, please… not that! Anything but that!”

It’s funny that when people reach a certain age, such as after graduating college, they assume it’s time to go out and get a job. But like many things the masses do, just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. In fact, if you’re reasonably intelligent, getting a job is one of the worst things you can do to support yourself. There are far better ways to make a living than selling yourself into indentured servitude.

Here are some reasons you should do everything in your power to avoid getting a job:

1. Income for dummies.

Getting a job and trading your time for money may seem like a good idea. There’s only one problem with it. It’s stupid! It’s the stupidest way you can possibly generate income! This is truly income for dummies.

Why is getting a job so dumb? Because you only get paid when you’re working. Don’t you see a problem with that, or have you been so thoroughly brainwashed into thinking it’s reasonable and intelligent to only earn income when you’re working? Have you never considered that it might be better to be paid even when you’re not working? Who taught you that you could only earn income while working? Some other brainwashed employee perhaps?

Don’t you think your life would be much easier if you got paid while you were eating, sleeping, and playing with the kids too? Why not get paid 24/7? Get paid whether you work or not. Don’t your plants grow even when you aren’t tending to them? Why not your bank account?

Who cares how many hours you work? Only a handful of people on this entire planet care how much time you spend at the office. Most of us won’t even notice whether you work 6 hours a week or 60. But if you have something of value to provide that matters to us, a number of us will be happy to pull out our wallets and pay you for it. We don’t care about your time — we only care enough to pay for the value we receive. Do you really care how long it took me to write this article? Would you pay me twice as much if it took me 6 hours vs. Only 3?

Non-dummies often start out on the traditional income for dummies path. So don’t feel bad if you’re just now realizing you’ve been suckered. Non-dummies eventually realize that trading time for money is indeed extremely dumb and that there must be a better way. And of course there is a better way. The key is to de-couple your value from your time.

Smart people build systems that generate income 24/7, especially passive income. This can include starting a business, building a web site, becoming an investor, or generating royalty income from creative work. The system delivers the ongoing value to people and generates income from it, and once it’s in motion, it runs continuously whether you tend to it or not. From that moment on, the bulk of your time can be invested in increasing your income (by refining your system or spawning new ones) instead of merely maintaining your income.

This web site is an example of such a system. At the time of this writing, it generates about $9000 a month in income for me (update: $40,000 a month as of 10/31/06), and it isn’t my only income stream either. I write each article just once (fixed time investment), and people can extract value from them year after year. The web server delivers the value, and other systems (most of which I didn’t even build and don’t even understand) collect income and deposit it automatically into my bank account. It’s not perfectly passive, but I love writing and would do it for free anyway. But of course it cost me a lot of money to launch this business, right? Um, yeah, $9 is an awful lot these days (to register the domain name). Everything after that was profit.

Sure it takes some upfront time and effort to design and implement your own income-generating systems. But you don’t have to reinvent the wheel — feel free to use existing systems like ad networks and affiliate programs. Once you get going, you won’t have to work so many hours to support yourself. Wouldn’t it be nice to be out having dinner with your spouse, knowing that while you’re eating, you’re earning money? If you want to keep working long hours because you enjoy it, go right ahead. If you want to sit around doing nothing, feel free. As long as your system continues delivering value to others, you’ll keep getting paid whether you’re working or not.

Your local bookstore is filled with books containing workable systems others have already designed, tested, and debugged. Nobody is born knowing how to start a business or generate investment income, but you can easily learn it. How long it takes you to figure it out is irrelevant because the time is going to pass anyway. You might as well emerge at some future point as the owner of income-generating systems as opposed to a lifelong wage slave. This isn’t all or nothing. If your system only generates a few hundred dollars a month, that’s a significant step in the right direction.

2. Limited experience.

You might think it’s important to get a job to gain experience. But that’s like saying you should play golf to get experience playing golf. You gain experience from living, regardless of whether you have a job or not. A job only gives you experience at that job, but you gain ”experience” doing just about anything, so that’s no real benefit at all. Sit around doing nothing for a couple years, and you can call yourself an experienced meditator, philosopher, or politician.

The problem with getting experience from a job is that you usually just repeat the same limited experience over and over. You learn a lot in the beginning and then stagnate. This forces you to miss other experiences that would be much more valuable. And if your limited skill set ever becomes obsolete, then your experience won’t be worth squat. In fact, ask yourself what the experience you’re gaining right now will be worth in 20-30 years. Will your job even exist then?

Consider this. Which experience would you rather gain? The knowledge of how to do a specific job really well — one that you can only monetize by trading your time for money – or the knowledge of how to enjoy financial abundance for the rest of your life without ever needing a job again? Now I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have the latter experience. That seems a lot more useful in the real world, wouldn’t you say?

3. Lifelong domestication.

Getting a job is like enrolling in a human domestication program. You learn how to be a good pet.

Look around you. Really look. What do you see? Are these the surroundings of a free human being? Or are you living in a cage for unconscious animals? Have you fallen in love with the color beige?

How’s your obedience training coming along? Does your master reward your good behavior? Do you get disciplined if you fail to obey your master’s commands?

Is there any spark of free will left inside you? Or has your conditioning made you a pet for life?

Humans are not meant to be raised in cages. You poor thing…

4. Too many mouths to feed.

Employee income is the most heavily taxed there is. In the USA you can expect that about half your salary will go to taxes. The tax system is designed to disguise how much you’re really giving up because some of those taxes are paid by your employer, and some are deducted from your paycheck. But you can bet that from your employer’s perspective, all of those taxes are considered part of your pay, as well as any other compensation you receive such as benefits. Even the rent for the office space you consume is considered, so you must generate that much more value to cover it. You might feel supported by your corporate environment, but keep in mind that you’re the one paying for it.

Another chunk of your income goes to owners and investors. That’s a lot of mouths to feed.

It isn’t hard to understand why employees pay the most in taxes relative to their income. After all, who has more control over the tax system? Business owners and investors or employees?

You only get paid a fraction of the real value you generate. Your real salary may be more than triple what you’re paid, but most of that money you’ll never see. It goes straight into other people’s pockets.

What a generous person you are!

5. Way too risky.

Many employees believe getting a job is the safest and most secure way to support themselves. Morons!

Social conditioning is amazing. It’s so good it can even make people believe the exact opposite of the truth.

Does putting yourself in a position where someone else can turn off all your income just by saying two words (“You’re fired”) sound like a safe and secure situation to you? Does having only one income stream honestly sound more secure than having 10?

The idea that a job is the most secure way to generate income is just silly. You can’t have security if you don’t have control, and employees have the least control of anyone. If you’re an employee, then your real job title should beprofessional gambler.

6. Having an evil bovine master.

When you run into an idiot in the entrepreneurial world, you can turn around and head the other way. When you run into an idiot in the corporate world, you have to turn around and say, “Sorry, boss.”

Did you know that the word boss comes from the Dutch word baas, which historically means master? Another meaning of the word boss is “a cow or bovine.” And in many video games, the boss is the evil dude that you have to kill at the end of a level.

So if your boss is really your evil bovine master, then what does that make you? Nothing but a turd in the herd.

Who’s your daddy?

7. Begging for money.

When you want to increase your income, do you have to sit up and beg your master for more money? Does it feel good to be thrown some extra Scooby Snacks now and then?

Or are you free to decide how much you get paid without needing anyone’s permission but your own?

If you have a business and one customer says “no” to you, you simply say “next.”

8. An inbred social life.

Many people treat their jobs as their primary social outlet. They hang out with the same people working in the same field. Such incestuous relations are social dead ends. An exciting day includes deep conversations about the company’s switch from Sparkletts to Arrowhead, the delay of Microsoft’s latest operating system, and the unexpected delivery of more Bic pens. Consider what it would be like to go outside and talk to strangers. Ooooh… scary! Better stay inside where it’s safe.

If one of your co-slaves gets sold to another master, do you lose a friend? If you work in a male-dominated field, does that mean you never get to talk to women above the rank of receptionist? Why not decide for yourself whom to socialize with instead of letting your master decide for you? Believe it or not, there are locations on this planet where free people congregate. Just be wary of those jobless folk — they’re a crazy bunch!

9. Loss of freedom.

It takes a lot of effort to tame a human being into an employee. The first thing you have to do is break the human’s independent will. A good way to do this is to give them a weighty policy manual filled with nonsensical rules and regulations. This leads the new employee to become more obedient, fearing that s/he could be disciplined at any minute for something incomprehensible. Thus, the employee will likely conclude it’s safest to simply obey the master’s commands without question. Stir in some office politics for good measure, and we’ve got a freshly minted mind slave.

As part of their obedience training, employees must be taught how to dress, talk, move, and so on. We can’t very well have employees thinking for themselves, now can we? That would ruin everything.

God forbid you should put a plant on your desk when it’s against the company policy. Oh no, it’s the end of the world! Cindy has a plant on her desk! Summon the enforcers! Send Cindy back for another round of sterility training!

Free human beings think such rules and regulations are silly of course. The only policy they need is: “Be smart. Be nice. Do what you love. Have fun.”

10. Becoming a coward.

Have you noticed that employed people have an almost endless capacity to whine about problems at their companies? But they don’t really want solutions – they just want to vent and make excuses why it’s all someone else’s fault. It’s as if getting a job somehow drains all the free will out of people and turns them into spineless cowards. If you can’t call your boss a jerk now and then without fear of getting fired, you’re no longer free. You’ve become your master’s property.

When you work around cowards all day long, don’t you think it’s going to rub off on you? Of course it will. It’s only a matter of time before you sacrifice the noblest parts of your humanity on the altar of fear: first courage… then honesty… then honor and integrity… and finally your independent will. You sold your humanity for nothing but an illusion. And now your greatest fear is discovering the truth of what you’ve become.

I don’t care how badly you’ve been beaten down. It is never too late to regain your courage. Never!

Still want a job?

If you’re currently a well-conditioned, well-behaved employee, your most likely reaction to the above will be defensiveness. It’s all part of the conditioning. But consider that if the above didn’t have a grain of truth to it, you wouldn’t have an emotional reaction at all. This is only a reminder of what you already know. You can deny your cage all you want, but the cage is still there. Perhaps this all happened so gradually that you never noticed it until now… like a lobster enjoying a nice warm bath.

If any of this makes you mad, that’s a step in the right direction. Anger is a higher level of consciousness than apathy, so it’s a lot better than being numb all the time. Any emotion — even confusion — is better than apathy. If you work through your feelings instead of repressing them, you’ll soon emerge on the doorstep of courage. And when that happens, you’ll have the will to actually do something about your situation and start living like the powerful human being you were meant to be instead of the domesticated pet you’ve been trained to be.

Happily jobless

What’s the alternative to getting a job? The alternative is to remain happily jobless for life and to generate income through other means. Realize that you earn income by providing value — not time – so find a way to provide your best value to others, and charge a fair price for it. One of the simplest and most accessible ways is to start your own business. Whatever work you’d otherwise do via employment, find a way to provide that same value directly to those who will benefit most from it. It takes a bit more time to get going, but your freedom is easily worth the initial investment of time and energy. Then you can buy your own Scooby Snacks for a change.

And of course everything you learn along the way, you can share with others to generate even more value. So even your mistakes can be monetized.

One of the greatest fears you’ll confront is that you may not have any real value to offer others. Maybe being an employee and getting paid by the hour is the best you can do. Maybe you just aren’t worth that much. That line of thinking is all just part of your conditioning. It’s absolute nonsense. As you begin to dump such brainwashing, you’ll soon recognize that you have the ability to provide enormous value to others and that people will gladly pay you for it. There’s only one thing that prevents you from seeing this truth — fear.

All you really need is the courage to be yourself. Your real value is rooted in who you are, not what you do. The only thing you need actually do is express your real self to the world. You’ve been told all sort of lies as to why you can’t do that. But you’ll never know true happiness and fulfillment until you summon the courage to do it anyway.

The next time someone says to you, “Get a job,” I suggest you reply as Curly did: ”No, please… not that! Anything but that!” Then poke him right in the eyes.

You already know deep down that getting a job isn’t what you want. So don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise. Learn to trust your inner wisdom, even if the whole world says you’re wrong and foolish for doing so. Years from now you’ll look back and realize it was one of the best decisions you ever made.

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``Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.'' - Corrie Ten Bloom

Why am I not Rich and Wealthy?

Is your financial situation in dire straits?
You have always wanted to be rich and wealthy but you aren't?
Do you want to know what keeps you from attracting money and wealth?


Well, the answer to that last question may surprise you. The obstacle that is blocking you from wealth is most likely you yourself. OK, let me explain.


How many times have you said to yourself "I wish I will be rich" or "I hope to be wealthy someday?" You know what? That is wishful thinking. Why? You are just wishing and hoping. If you read between the lines of your thoughts, you are actually sending negative signals to your brain. You are actually telling yourself that you are not rich and to be rich is only a wish or a hope.


So what do you do? Well, since it is only a wish and a hope, you will not be doing anything, isn't it? So if you are not doing anything to be rich, how will you be rich?


Furthermore, many people have negative vibes about wealth. That is why terms are coined to associate with rich people such as "she is filthy rich", "he is rich because he probably would have done something immoral to accumulate his wealth" or "most rich people are jerks anyway."


Let me ask you some hard but honest questions. Why is being rich filthy? Why can't people accumulate wealth with their abilities and skills without doing anything unethical or immoral? Why do people think rich people are jerks when most of them are often very nice people and doing great services to the society at their own expenses?


Now if associate bad thoughts to being wealthy, then subconsciously, you will disassociate yourself with wealth and this will subconsciously sabotage the way you do things to accumulate wealth. In that case, how are you going to be rich?


So what separates the very wealthy and those who can hardly make ends meet is not just intelligence, hard work, education, skills, opportunity or luck. It is all about your belief system and attitude towards money. This is the theme hammered home on many personal development seminars, boot camps and books of world famous wealth creation coaches and gurus such as Anthony Robbins and Robert Kiyosaki.


So what are the belief system and attitudes of rich and wealthy people? The rich and wealthy never doubted that they can be rich. They know that they deserve to be rich. They believe that there is more than enough wealth to go around and so they do not hoard but contribute to the well being of their society at large. They know creating wealth must be fun and not merely hard work.


The rich and wealthy know that no one owes them a living, so they do not rant and grumble but roll up their sleeves to acquire what they want. They know that if they desire wealth, they can achieve and attract it and they are always grateful for what they have and what they will have.


Now can you see the difference in the mindset of the wealthy and the ordinary folks? There is a world of difference because the rich and wealthy do not sabotage themselves from getting rich through negative thoughts. So, if you are not rich and wealthy, then examine your thinking to see whether you have you have any limiting beliefs about money and being rich.

 - by Chris Chew

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Dare to live your life

I don’t know about you, but one of the things I’m most afraid of in life is ordinariness or mediocrity. For me, life is too precious to be lived in mediocrity. Life is a golden opportunity, and we should use it to the best of our ability. Living in mediocrity means we do not use the opportunity (life) as optimally as we should.

Unfortunately, many people are trapped in mediocrity. I believe one of the main reasons is that they do not dare to be different . You need to be different if you want to be above the average. The question is:

Do you dare to be different?

This question might not be easy to answer, but how you answer it will make the difference between excellence and mediocrity.

Here are some more specific questions to help you check yourself and take actions:

1. Do you have a dream? 

This is the first question you should ask yourself. I believe one of the main reasons people just follow the herd is they don’t have a dream. If there is nothing to pursue then why bother being different; why bother trying?

But a dream is what sets you above the average. Not having a dream means going to mediocrity on auto-pilot.

If your answer to this first question is “no” then start searching. I’m sure you have a dream deep inside of you. It might be something from your childhood. Maybe for a long time you have been too busy to let the little voice of your dream be heard. This is the right time to heed that little voice.

If you have found your dream, the next question is whether or not you have the courage to follow it. Questions two through five will deal with that.

2. Are you doing what you want or what you should? 

There are often implicit “rules” about what someone should do in a particular situation. For example, when there are two job opportunities, the “rule” says that you should take the one with a higher pay.

But is that what you really want? I mean, does it help you achieve your dream? Maybe the job with less pay will help you achieve your dream while the one with higher pay doesn’t. Do you have the courage to be different and follow your dream?

3. Do you worry more about being loved than being what you love?

Another reason why we don’t dare to be different is because we are trying to meet other people’s expectations. We often worry more about what other people say than about what matters to us. But living someone else’s life is a bad way to live your life. Why should you lose opportunity just because of what other people say?

4. Do you choose what is safe rather than what is right? 

Maybe you are not trying to meet other people’s expectation. Maybe you just don’t want to take risks and therefore you choose to play safe. But this is exactly what many old people regret. When they were asked in a study about what they regretted most and what they would do differently, most of them answered: “I wish I had risked more.” Don’t let the same regret happen to you.

5. If you had only six months left to live, would you do what you are doing now? 

You can only answer “yes” to this question if what you are doing matters to you. Doing what matters to you is a sure way to excellence since you will do it with all your heart. But you need the courage to be different and follow your heart. Do you have it? I hope your answer is yes. Life is too precious to be lived in mediocrity.

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