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Dont' Escape Criticism, Externalize It.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt

“Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary.
It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body.
It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”
~ Winston Churchill

Criticism is crucial for personal improvement. It’s the most direct way to find out what you should improve on. However, accepting criticism can be emotionally challenging. Afterall, we’re only human, who wants to hear bad stuff about ourselves?

It’s hard to not take it personally. Our instinctive reaction is to become defensive and we shut out potentially helpful and life-enhancing tips. By doing this, we miss out on what could supercharge our improvement.

So how can you take criticism without getting self-conscious and defensive?

Answer: An effective way to accept criticism is to externalize it.

When you externalize criticism, you escape the defensiveness trap. You stop being self-conscious and take criticism objectively, which lets you reap the benefits of the helpful tips that the criticism contains.

The criticism isn’t directed at you personally, but at a writer, artist, worker, developer (or whatever else you’re getting feedback for) that just happens to have the same name as you. When you take criticism objectively, your initial defensiveness fades away, simply because you’re not taking it personally anymore.

Externalizing criticism lets you extract helpful tips from even the most critical feedback. You take the bits that make sense to you and discard the rest. You don’t risk getting defensive or even feeling bad or self-conscious.

Externalizing criticism is also a shield from bad and unhelpful criticism. It doesn’t matter how much or what kind of comments and criticism you get: you look at it all objectively. You can take what makes sense to you and discard the rest.

When you externalize criticism, you can easily take and use it to supercharge your personal improvement.

5 Steps to Effectively Taking Criticism

Ready to improve your taking of criticism? Good.

Next time you ask for feedback, follow these 5 steps to externalize criticism:

1. Wait for your gut reaction to pass before doing anything – let your emotions disappear, so you don’t take the criticism personally and become defensive
2. Imagine the criticism is directed at someone else – some person who happens to have your name and does exactly what you do
3. Keep your mouth shut – listen, don’t defend
4. Discuss the person’s points – asking questions will a) help you to get even more useful tips from them, and b) externalize the criticism more (you’re seeing it even more objectively this way)

Rinse and repeat every time you get feedback until externalizing criticism becomes a habit.

(Bonus) How to even more effectively take criticism:

1. Be confident – believe in what you do, so that even the most critical comments don’t sway your direction
2. Have a clear goal in what you’re doing – so when you ask for feedback on it, you can take criticism to improve the key areas rather than let others dictate the direction and get lost

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Be a Money Magnet: Here's the Key

A money magnet is someone who uses attraction and the power of visualization to attract wealth and abundance into their life. It sounds like a crazy concept to the uninitiated, but once you begin studying the law of attraction, you'll find that becoming a money magnet is easier than most people think.

The problem is that most of us are conditioned to think that money is difficult to come by -- that it is a scarce commodity, and we are lucky just to get enough of it to scrape by. Actually, nothing could be further from the truth. Understanding the law of attraction helps us to see it there is never a lack or limitation of anything in the universe. All things flow with abundance, including money.

Once we began to get into the mindset of attraction, becoming a money magnet is second nature. You will find that money simply begins to appear as if ordered, right on cue. And one very effective way to start this flow of attraction and wealth into your life is to use the power of visualization.

Try this simple but effective exercise to attract money into your life:

Twice a day, morning and night, go into a quiet room and relax quietly in a comfortable chair or lying down. Then simply close your eyes and begin to visualize yourself having great wealth. It is important to understand that you should never visualize wanting money, but instead, see yourself ALREADY HAVING lots of money.

Once you begin seeing yourself as already being a money magnet, the real power of attraction springs into action on your behalf, producing wealth in your life. In fact, the most important point about attracting money into your life is this: you cannot "need" it. Instead, you must already be convinced that you have plenty of money.


You see, despite what some ill-informed "gurus" would have you believe, the universe does not give us everything that we "want." The universe gives us more of what we already "have." This means that in order to attract something (like money) into your life, you need to already "have" money.

This may sound like a catch 22, but actually it's not. By using the power of visualization, you can begin to see yourself as having an abundance of all things -- including money. It is this inner "seeing" that brings about the power of attraction and will make you a magnet for money (or anything else you desire).

In my coaching practice or consulting, I sometimes see clients who have a hard time with this concept of "having" versus "wanting." But with time and study, it becomes much easier to understand and to put the power of your creative imagination to work on your behalf to create wealth.

In my experience, the two most important points in becoming a money magnet through the law of attraction are as follows:

1. Use the power of visualization every single day. "See" yourself already having the things that you want, and the money that you desire. Remember, it's not enough to simply "want" something. In your mind, you must already "have" it.

2. Practice gratitude. By being grateful that you already have something, you are sending a very powerful signal out into the universe. The law of attraction assures us that whatever you put out into the world will come back to you. In other words, if you put out a strong vibration that you are a money magnet, attraction will make sure that your affirmation takes physical form and becomes a reality in your life.

There are no exceptions to these rules, just as there is no exception to the law of attraction. It is always working, at all times, for everyone. If what you desire is great riches, began "seeing" yourself as already being a money magnet; attraction will manifest your inner "seeing" into a reality in your life-- every single time.

That's it for now.

To Your Success.

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Anyway - Mother Theresa

“People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
… Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
… Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
… Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
… Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
… Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
… Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
… Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
… Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.”
——— Mother Theresa.

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